Monday, April 30, 2007

OMG!

Riley is in this little baby class. Aside from the fact that the teacher is a complete moron (USE TWO HANDS, RILEY!!!), it's an enjoyable class. I like all of the moms who attend and their kids are sweet and fun.

There is another child in Riley's class that shares his birthday which is coming up very soon. About three months ago, his mom came running up to me and said, "We're having our son's birthday party on Saturday the 19th so you need to have Riley's another day."

Believe it or not, I didn't get offended by this. Her son is her first and only child and these things are important. I just planned on having our party on the 20th. No biggie.

So, we bought some invitations (Curious George-Riley picked them out). I had them filled out, addressed, stamped and ready to go. I just needed to send them out. Yes, I do love to procrastinate.

It turns out that it's a good thing I hadn't done it yet.

Can you guess why?

Today the other child's mom handed out his invitations announcing the party date as Sunday the 20th.

SUNDAY THE 20th NOT SATURDAY THE 19th like she insisted!!!!

So now the parties are on the same day!

Nice.

The good news is that our invites haven't gone out. The bad news is that we have to buy all new invitations (Go Diego, GO!) and start this all over again.
That means I have to call the place where we were having the party and see if they can switch dates and I'll need to reschedule the delicious birthday cake I ordered. Annoying...but doable.

That's the last time I try to work around someone else's schedule.

I wouldn't even bother were it not for the fact that she is inviting many of the same kids we are inviting and I don't want people, my friends, to get stuck in the middle.

Birthday party politics are always so fun.

Well, they say nice guys finish last.

Please DO delurk and discuss this one.

I'm speechless.

7 comments:

Beck said...

Hahaha. I can't even imagine. I was pretty nervy with my first kid, The Most Important Child Ever Born, but I've calmed down a lot.

Elizabeth said...

haha you are so flexible - a great characteristic.

Mel said...

I think you're great. I'd clobber the stupid woman.

Jen said...

I totally understand. I held off on big birthday parties until my son's 5th because of the silly birthday politics. I invited some of my friends' kids and one or two of my son's closest friends from school. We figured out a date for the party that fit with my son's friends. After that, whoever could come could come. This year we worked the politics and held his party a week later than his birthday because it fell on the end of spring break week. Not everyone could attend, but I fought the birthday party monsters... I decided not to hold it anywhere or go with too crazy a theme. We partied at our house, I bought a cake, the themed invites...and cheap party favors. The goal: run around and be silly. It was a rousing success. And it felt good to not put a ton of pressure on myself.

I would kick that mom with a very pointy shoe. It's crazy disrespectful and shockingly self-centered. Whoever ends up able to come to Riley's party, I'm sure he will have all kinds of fun. Go Diego or Curious George!

Karen said...

Went a blogging one day at 8cm deluded and she linked to this site
http://www.birthdayswithoutpressure.org/
I'm totally sold. I had to get off that crazy, crazy train and find a way to make the day special without all the drama! I'd have been speechless. I think you are being incredibly patient and gracious. Did you ever ask her why she changed the date (And also why she thought she was the boss of your party?)

QueenieB said...

Yeah, birthday party politics can be insane. You're a smart woman to take the high road and not really get involved with the whole "but the 20th was MY day" thing. She's lucky to have you in her social circle.

Jamie said...

That's total crap. the other Mom should bow down to you and surrender the Birthday day. Did you talk to her about it? Did you casually point out that she is an insistant flip-flopper?

Are all your friends stoked about going to two parties back to back? Why don't you guys just do a huge joint party together. Rent a place and go for it.

Have fun with this. :)

Jamie