Thursday, March 29, 2007

Thursday Thirteen #4


Thirteen Stupid Things People Have Said About My Child's Limb Difference


1. "Did this happen because you did drugs?" said the complete stranger at the park.

2. "Will it grow back when he's older?" asked a good friend who is honestly just naive. It's actually kind of sweet when you think about it. Riley the starfish.

3. I think it's great because now my kids know a child with "special needs." said my former friend.

4. "Use two hands!" said Riley's preschool "teacher" on three separate occasions.

5. "Your child is really cute. It's too bad he's going to be severely disabled." said our neonatologist.

6. "What's the matter, doesn't he have a hand?" said another complete stranger as he grabbed Riley's loose pajama sleeve and got a big surprise. You should have seen his face when he discovered Riley really didn't have a hand! >8O That'll teach him to touch an infant without asking first.

7. "What's wrong with him?"

8. "I feel so sorry for his parents."

9. "We're dealing with a deformed kid here!" said a family member.

10."It's ok for me to treat him differently than the rest because he's special." said another family member.

11.
"Don't let him leave the house without his prosthetic."

12. "So, what else is wrong with him?"

13.
"I don't think you should let him do that." said by many whenever Riley tries an activity that seems to require two hands.

My answer, "Yeah, just try and stop him."





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16 comments:

Becka said...

Aw! Those are horrible things to say. But I bet you have some really GREAT comebacks. :P Maybe next week's 13? Heheheh...

~~Becka
http://beckasbabble.blogspot.com

Qtpies7 said...

I can only imagine how hard it is to deal with things like that. I have enough trouble with comments about things I choose, like a large family, but when it comes to a kid, watch out!

AGK said...

WOW! Knowing some of the crazy things people have said to me in my life, it still astounds me how people can be...

Jen said...

Good lord. I'm trying to mentally prepare myself for some of those comments. I'm only 15 months into this.

Anyway. To shove a sense of humor into the face of others, visit this:

http://tinyurl.com/ynncct

Amy said...

I just posted a couple of days ago one conversation I had with a lady because of my disability. What's wrong with people?

I once had a teacher ask me what I did to deserve arthritis! Dummies!

Eric said...

The joys of ignorance and insensitivity. I've heard so much of that in regards to Handsome Son that I pretty much end it with a look (coming from a protective father who stands 6'4", 250 lbs. pretty much shuts it all down). You have my support and prayers in dealing with these....shall we say...ignoramuses.

Eric
Renaissance Blogger

Dawn said...

We've had a couple of people joke that they're glad we adopted Madison so that their kids can have some "diversity" in their lives. And we had one person BEG us to put Madison in the all-white school to "add to the diversity."

Because, yeah, I'm all about sacrificing my daughter's needs to educate the children of privilege.

Mel said...

Holy crap. I gasped aloud at every single one of those.
What is it about people that they see differences as vulnerabilities, free passes to say whatever they want to say? That is just so ugly. Ugly ugly ugly.
(Although I will add here that I know I use the phrase "USE TWO HANDS!" every single day of my life, at least seven times an hour, so maybe the daycare provider did it out of habit?)

Beck said...

My mouth is agape with shock.
Number one. Geeeez.
But I've had a smaller taste of that one myself, since everyone in the world feels compelled to tell me that The Baby is small. REALLY. Thank you for telling me. We hadn't noticed that she's nearly half as small as she should be.

Lady G~ said...

People can be so insensitive. I have lupus, fibromyalgia, chiari malformation (a brain disorder) and hydrocephalus (cerebrospinal fluid build up- water in the brain.

When I have bad days (or weeks), people will say, "Well, you don't look sick." Uhhh, well it's all in my head! LOL!

It really would be better if they would just hush and not say anything at all.

Ingrid said...

sorry about your kids condition. but are those people that insensitive for saying those to you or are they just plain crazy!!! OMG!!!! i pray that you'll have more patience in dealing with people like those!!!

Mamma said...

WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE??!!

Well we know because you told us who they were. But oh my goodness.

He's Riley! He's a rockstar!

Keep your comments to yourself people. Really.

BethGo said...

Thanks all.
All I can say is that having a child who is "different" has been very eye opening.
There's a lot of stupid people out there.

Kerry said...

What is wrong with people?!!!
Geez!

Jamie said...

Oh. My. God. I can't even believe. I CAN NOT EVEN BELIEVE!

Wow. I am seriously at a loss for words.

But props to you for your response of trying to stop him. What a good mommy!

Jamie

Richard J said...

I really liked your comeback to #13. That's a great attitude. The only thing that keeps me somewhat sane when people make stupid remarks about our family makeup (white parents, black kids) is that most people aren't trying to be mean. They're just stupid.

Still, there are times when you just want to hurt somebody...

Richard
http://familyfrontiers.blogspot.com/